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Adding fuel to the fire September 5, 2008

Filed under: motherhood,parenting,toddlers — swimmom @ 4:55 pm
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My 18 month old knows no boundaries.

Today, my son was playing with one of his trains.

Sophia walked up to him, grabbed the train and ran.

As he went to tackle her, I stopped them and gave George his train back and told Sophia, “No!”

As George walked away with his train, Sophia went and grabbed his shirt from behind and tackled him to the ground.

I kid you not.

Sophia is half the size of George.

I really have to get her to understand their are consquences for her actions and she can not have the run of the house, because right now, she has the complete run of the house.

She is in and out of the fridge at least 2 dozen times a day, just opening it and taking stuff out like a toy, she climbs on tables, rips books, throws toys,plays in the toilet and many, many other things, I don’t want to mention, on hesitation that you may think I have absolutely no control over my children (with Sophia, I may have no control).

My friend was watching an episode of Supernanny a couple years ago and saw an episode about giving kids Sophia’s age a time-out. The technique was to take the child and sit the child in your lap, restraining them so you can’t move, facing the corner. You keep the child in there for 1-2 mintues and but don’t give them eye contact or talk to them. My friend did this with her daughter and it worked out well.

I’m going to start this tomorrow, I’m desperate. Saying no to my daughter only fuels her fire and it’s getting out of control. I really need to control this situation before she is 3 and gets even worse.

So, wish me luck.

My dad thinks that on the first day, I’ll be in the corner with Sophia an easy 30 times.

I wish he were wrong.

I’ll keep you updated.

In the meantime, have any adivce, don’t hestitate to let me know.


3 Responses to “Adding fuel to the fire”

  1. zjojor Says:

    I understand what you are going thru I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 10 year old ,but my little 2 1/2 year old is something else
    yes she goes in and out of the fridge,climbs on table, climbs in dressers…………..you are not alone.

  2. fifaroono Says:

    I started time outs with my twins when they turned 1. We do 1 minute per year. Now they are 2, they get 2 minutes. No kidding, it works! My children are very well behaved, something we are told everywhere we go. It is not always easy or convenient, but it works if you are consistent. They get 2 warnings before going into timeout, but if it involves physical violence, such as hitting or pushing, there is no warning. I also tell them they may stand on the floor and a step stool, nothing else. I probably use the word danger a little too much in our house, but I figure they need to know why we do not do certain things.

    I have a friend with 2 1/2 year twins and a 4 year old. They beat each other on a daily basis. they are embarrassing to be in public with and they are constantly unhappy and screaming every minute of the day. Their mom uses timeout, but never consistently. She usually threatens, but never follows through and she gives many warnings for physical behavior. She is always asking me why my kids are so happy and calm. She jokes about them not being normal sometimes. I feel that kids need boundaries and if it is done with patience and love, they will learn much quicker.

    Good luck, you are doing a great thing that works!

  3. Ivey Says:

    My daughter is horrible when I’m on the phone (and I mean on the phone for only a minute!). She pees on herself (she’s potty-trained), throws her toys or clean clothes in the trash or a bathtub (and turns on the water), leaves multiple faucets running in the house, and takes things off the bathroom counter and throws them violently on the floor. Nothing seems to work. I have started spanking because she doesn’t listen to reason when I’m on the phone.
    Anyone have any advice? Oh, she’s two years old.

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